Revision: Look at my new baggage! It's green and makes those around me crazy.

"If we only fell in love with people who were perfect for us, he said, then there wouldn't be so much fuss about love in the first place."    ----The Rules of Civility- Amor Towles 

"Love isn't looking into someone's eyes. It's looking out in the same direction." - Ice-T

 Recently I've suffered some severe moments of insane jealousy. I never used to be a jealous person, yet I drown in it sometimes and I can only attribute it to my past. How do I completely overcome it? Well that's a relationship issue I'm still working out. Which got me thinking about this post again and the questions I posed last year.
  When it comes to relationships, are we our own worst-enemy? It's very easy for me to say, I will not carry my baggage into a new relationship, but something always seem to travel with me. I find it funny and sad as well, that I seem to acquire "new" baggage with the dissolution of each previous one. Through the course of this blog (for those that remember all of the entires), I've utilized my writing as a means of exposing, dissecting and hopefully eradicating some of my larger relationship issues. Has it worked? I would say yes, except for the fact that the new baggage seems to keep spitting out on the conveyor belt. Bags I don't even remember purchasing. Does that luggage tag really have my name on it? Sure does, and addressed to Jealousy Lane, Crazytown. Will we ever travel lightly in relationships, with only the necessities?
  
  In my speediness to ensure that I'm not making the same mistakes that I did in the past, am I setting myself up to suffer a whole new wack of mistakes and wrong choices?  Am I so caught up with all the wonderful "little" things I adore that I'm ignoring the "big" picture? Is the fact that I'm questioning and analyzing this, the BIGGEST mistake of all?
I guess Bonnie Franklin had it right and you really have to take it One Day At A Time


Time to talk about vaginas

This is the vagina talk, so you can stop reading if it's too explicit. Above is a beautiful Georgia O'Keefe painting and I'm posting it in honour of another friend who doesn't love her vagina. I love my vagina. I'm serious. Laugh if you may, sigh out loud....but I'm dead serious. My vagina is unique, I've always loved it and you know what....I've never had a boyfriend who didn't love it.
   This talk all came about as a friend confessed to me that she was very self-conscious of her vagina, and has felt that it's ugly, smells and is generally uncomfortable with it.
    How does this happen? Are men self-conscious of their penises on the same large scale that women are uncomfortable with their vaginas? No, I did not say large penis.
    This is a different body issue than how I despise my large forehead or crooked teeth. Somewhere along the line, someone,  (or many people) had made a comment(s) about these body parts of mine and now I'm self-conscious about them.
    There is a bigger difference that needs to be recognized about the "unflattering" vagina; my insecurities about my forehead and teeth are my own creation, there isn't a continuous societal discourse that reminds me of the "ugly" of my forehead and teeth, (although the crooked teeth thing is considered "not beautiful" in western media). My friend confessed that she had for a long time bought into the myth of the women's vagina "smelling bad".
     How do you overcome this? Can you do it yourself? Or as Naomi Wolf discusses in Vagina: A New Biography do you need a man or another human to validate the beauty of this organ. She went to visit Mike Lousada and did a session with him in psychosexual therapy work. Yes, he helps women love their vaginas. Very interesting. Please check out the link.
Sidenote------->This got me thinking. Is there a word/name for a man's odour? Isn't it just sweat? That's right ya'll, let's head over to Urban Dictionary
     What body issues do you have? How did you overcome them or does it seem impossible to do so? I'm very curious readers.